*this is a sponsored post regarding BDSM, safe sex and consent. All words are my own.
I’m no stranger when it comes to talking about sex with my friends and family. Pass me a bottle of wine and get me around my girlfriends and it’s a key topic for us. However, I think discussions around safety and consent are important to have in order to have a good understanding safe sex. After all, with the sexual dictionary expanding by the day, it can be hard to keep up. If we can place one element we can really put a strong essence of learning into. I have friends who are into BDSM, role-play, vanilla sex (oh I sound very 50 shades here) and it’s bloody great for all of them, they know what they like and how to safely experience it. So here are some tips I’ve put together with their help on how to stay safe when it comes to explorative sex.
Ensure high levels of Communication
Like any exercise, communication is a key element to ensure you can express your concerns, your likes and dislikes and what you’re comfortable with. If we all think how we would have liked or would like our first sexual experiences to be, you can bet you’ll say the words, “safe and comfortable”. This never leaves us. No matter what element of play you partake in, you’ll want to feel some element of comfort in your safe zone. That’s why it’s so important to have discussions about your limits, your willingness to try and discuss any possible safe words if they may be needed.
Set a pace
If you think things are going too fast, they may well be. So set a comfortable pace and practice this with your partner, or if you’re into something a little kinkier, you may be using femdom near me for navigating your needs. Either way, it’s important to sort a pace for you and your sexual partner, ensure all play is fun for both.
Avoid Drugs and Alcohol
It can be too difficult to follow the above two points if drugs or alcohol are involved. Therefore it’s probably wise to keep it a sober experience and avoid any activity under the influence. This will keep your impulses sharper and your ability to communicate clearly much better. When it comes to femdom dating it’s better to keep your senses sharp.
Practice Consent Always
There are a couple of ways to do this depending on your sexual preferences. Some BDSM lovers use a traffic light system, where green means ‘we’re good to proceed’ red means ‘stop’. It’s good to actually ask for re-consent throughout the process if you have any doubts, this can be as simple as ‘are we ok to carry on?’ or affirming that they’re comfortable with what is happening. If you have any doubts then stop and communicate this.
So there you have it, 4 rules for staying safe when it comes to sex. Do you have something you could add to this list? Share so that we can all better educate ourselves on safe, consensual sex.
Violet x
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